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You ward off troubles with calmness and benevolence.
You sure don't generate them with anger and violence.
You are not rigid, not amenable. You are flexible, but only to a certain degree.
You don’t approve of everything. You thing things over; you agree or disagree
Whatever you do, it is not enough. You can never satisfy his ego.
Being codependent, if you want to leave him, he won’t let you go.
You can tell whether he does love you or he’s just using you as a means
To fulfill his own desires, and what he says is not really what he means.
He would rescue you if you were about to drown.
He also could, if he wishes, sink you deep down.
He may not mean it, but just acts on a whim.
Therefore, you had better learn how to swim.
There's no one to blame but himself, if he does something amiss.
As the Berber proverb goes, "He who hits himself doesn't miss."
When hurt, you may show your claws, something you cannot prevent.
But you do not use them to scratch anyone in retaliation, in any event.
Whosoever shouts at you, you don’t shout at him back,
Just as when a dog barks at you, you simply let it bark.
You don’t even bother to tell him, “I heard you. Please stop.”
Just as you deem of no use telling a dog “Be quiet. Shut up.”
The best way to keep him quiet, when he shouts at you, is for sure by silence.
For, if you shout at him back, he gets louder, as violence engenders violence.
You react to anger not with anger, but with calmness. You will feel better.
You know that you certainly do not extinguish fire with oil, but with water.
Whenever one hurts you, you will not hurt him back.
And say nothing either to his face or behind his back.
If you ever want to say something to someone, you say it to his face.
You do not say it behind his back, for sooner or later, it will surface.
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